Daily Habits Causing Stress

Ever wondered why you end up stressing every day even after keeping yourself motivated and devoted towards life! It might be a reflection of daily bad habits that you unknowingly keep on following.

Some of the major stress causing habits -

  1. Poor Sleep- Working for late nights, surfing on social media, sleeping for more or less required hours lead to poor sleeping habits, which causes frustration and less concentration at work.
  2. Skipping a meal- Morning breakfast is said to be the healthiest diet, a study of Spain declared people, who skip their breakfast have thickened arteries, which leads to early heart attack and strokes.
  3. Overthinking- The primary cause of feeling less energetic and having low mood is the result of thinking more than required. Taking every incident and conversation so seriously causes stress.
  4. Tech-Surfing- Digital gadgets make the life simpler but create a chaotic mind. Putting eyes on laptops and desktops at work, scrolling on the phone the entire day, watching television can make you lethargic.
  5. Caffeine intake- Tea, Coffee or other caffeine drinks are instant mood busters but not good for later hours, caffeine immediately makes a happy mood and distress mind but having more than 2 cups a day leads, to addiction and panic.
  6. Tobacco/Smoking-The most instant stress remover preferred by more than half of the world population is making the body and mind dead. The daily smoking habit diminishes the ability of a person to think and lowers the brain functioning in the long run.

Get over the fascinating-cum-harmful habits soon that are eventually deteriorating the capacity of the mind to think positive and dragging towards a more stressful livelihood. Replace the above patterns with new ones, which are equally mindful and peaceful-

  • Meditate in the morning for 10-15 minutes. It opens up the mind and creates new opportunities towards a happy
  • Take Healthy diet with more fiber and vitamin; it will keep you active, healthy and refreshed.
  • Connect with Nature by taking a daily morning and evening walk.
  • Conversate more with your family and the ones, who care for you
  • Open Up with new people and try to learn something from them. It creates more enthusiasm towards life and you make new relations, which is satisfying at the end of the day.

Change your daily habits and experience a new zest in you. If something still bothers, just call or visit WeListen.in. We Listen, We Help.


Best Self Help Books

When life heads down on difficulties, we generally end up having low self-esteem, disinterest towards life and a contrary lookout. Each one us has faced it once, but less are the people, who stood up and risen through this and inspired others too.

Bringing to you 5 of the Bestselling books of all time on self help, which is a mind changer. Start over by picking up your favorite one and see yourself growing positively with every turning page-

  1. 12 rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos by Jordan B Peterson- If your mind is lost in the mystic world of life, then this book has decoded most of the answers. This 2018 write up by Peterson is an inspiration of and for biology, spiritualism, religion, myths and scientific research.
  2. The Road Less Travelled by M. Scott Peck- The book is known to be one of the most well-known works by Scott (a known Psychiatrist). Written in 1978, the book is divided into four parts, speaking primarily about discipline in life, depth of true love in the second phase, following power of religion and grace in third and fourth dividends.
  3. How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie-A 1948 book (revised in 1990) is based on Dale’s own experiences. As the title of the book suggests, it answers few of the most worried about questions as How to give our Best in life? How to face trouble? How to make a difficult decision? If you need the answers, go for this book!
  4. First Things First by Stephen R. Covey- Covey, an author of a bestseller ‘The seven habits of highly effective people’ had written this masterpiece in 1994. The author is telling to perform time management in three generations, task listing, personal organization and clarification of values.
  5. When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron= The author is a well known American Spiritual author. Written in the year 1996, the book advice to boldly overcome pain and difficulties and win in

Books have hidden secrets to heal, read them and learn the power of self-upbringing and living a happier life. If seeking any further help to overcome difficulties, Call or Visit WeListen.in.


Ten Books Recommended by Highly Successful People

Behind every successful idea is hidden immense amount of hard work and brainstorming by the people with extraordinary skills and knowledge. Each person, who is positioned successful today, has been given the honor for their unique ideation that leads the world with the storm, take Steve Jobs, Oprah Winfrey, Bill Gates, Warren Buffet. Though they share the different field, ideology and personality but they all have one trait in common that is to read at least one book in a week.
The secret of success is reading books, consuming what it taught and emerging a fresh idea from own observational eye. But it matters a lot what you prefer to read, a bunch of average books or one-two quality books.

So if you are planning to have a new business vision, then have the right pick of books that achievers own preferred to grow high in their career-

  1. Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand - The book perfectly rolls Science fiction, mystery and romance together and depicts dystopian in the United States, which private businesses suffer under increasingly burdensome laws and regulations. It is a write up of early 1957 and is a special recommendation by Steve Jobs and Mark Cuban.
  2. Business Adventures by John Brooks - The book has twelve classic tales from the World of Wall Street, engaging about America’s Corporate and Financial life, Bill Gates and Warren Buffet recommend the copy as a perfect business eye.
  3. The catcher in the rye by J.D Salinger - It became a highly preferred book by adults and teenagers, the reason being it deals with the issues of innocence, identity, belonging, loss and connection. Highly recommended by Bill Gates and Woody Allen.
  4. Influence Science and Practice by Robert B. Cialdini - A masterpiece, which explains how people easily get influenced. The findings in the book are backed up by numerous empirical studies conducted in the fields of psychology, marketing, economics, anthropology and social science. Recommended by Warren Buffet.
  5. Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell - The author merged up different stories of success from Bill Gate’s achievement to the success of the Beatles. A non- fictional copy of full inspiration, recommended by Charlie Munger.
  6. The $100 Startup by Chris Guillebeau - The book has compiled 50 most intriguing case studies of 1500 individuals, who started their business from Dollar 100 or less. The book shows to live a life of adventures, meaning, and purpose. Recommended by Tony Sieh.
  7. Beginner’s Mind by Zen Mind - Breaking the dilemma, the book is different from others. The book involves the teaching of late Shunryu Suzuki, which has been recorded in writing by his student Marian Derb, It is a high recommendation of Steve Jobs and Kevin Rose.
  8. The Innovator’s Dilemma by Clayton Christensen - Christensen portrays it perfectly how the great firms fail even after putting it right due to the arrival of new technologies. It is a great work and a recommendation by Steve Jobs and self-author Malcolm Gladwell.
  9. The Ten Commandments for business failure by Donald R. Keough - The book follows own experiences of Keough that has risen and breached him at times in his business. He perfectly encounters why the enterprises fail even after a sheer game plan. Recommended by Bill Gates and Warren Buffet.
  10. The Aeneid by Virgil - Aeneid is an epic poem by Virgil written early in between 29 and 19 BC. The poem follows a Trojan who, traveled to Italy, became the ancestor of Romans and the story further follows about his wanderings and victory at the end. Recommended by Mark Zuckerberg and Ted Turner.

Have you read any of the above books or want to add any other book to our list? Tell us in comments.


How to Overcome Insomnia

Insomnia is a sleeping disorder where a person becomes restless and is unable to sleep well at night or not able to sleep at all, which leads towards a tired day entirely and leaving the person feel less energetic, frustrated and disinterested towards life. There might be several reasons for poor sleeping habits

Try to identify all probable causes of insomnia. Once you figure out the cause, you can get the required help. You can talk to a professional to find the cause.

  • Are you under a lot of stress?
  • Do you feel emotionally hopeless?
  • Do you struggle with chronic feelings of anxiety or worry?
  • Have you recently gone through a traumatic experience?
  • Are you taking any medications that might be affecting your sleep?
  • Do you have any health problems that may be interfering with sleep?
  • Is your sleep environment quiet and comfortable?
  • Do you try to go to bed and get up around the same time every day?
  • Do you stay on the phone till late?
  • Are having alcohol before bedtime?
  • How healthy are your eating habits?

Acute Insomnia doesn’t last for many days as the worries are temporary and once they are gone the person tends to have regular sleeping hours, but, if untreated it can lead to chronic insomnia.

How to deal with it

  • Stick to a regular sleep schedule. Try going to bed and getting up at the same time every day, including weekends. Get up at your usual time in the morning even if you’re tired. This will help you get back in a regular sleep rhythm.
  • Try to wake up early in the morning and go for a morning walk and exercise; it will keep you refreshed the entire day ending with peaceful sleep.
  • Make sure your room is quiet, dark and comfortable, a lot of noise or uncomfortable surroundings can hamper your sleep.
  • Shut the phone at least an hour before bed. Instead of watching tv or surfing on your phone try to listen to some soothing music or read a book. This will help you go to bed on time, and you will wake up refreshed in the morning.
  • Take a Diet, which is high in magnesium and potassium like Avocado, yogurt, fibrous fruits, etc. and try to avoid heavy meals for dinner.
  • Think less and perform more. Instead of reiterating and getting nervous about how to deal with the tough situation, find out the solution, talk to someone if required, once you have nothing to worry about, you will be able to sleep like a baby.

Follow the above tips to improve your sleeping habits, if the problem continues and you need any further help, Just Call or visit WeListen.in.


Interview Nerves:  How To Cope With Anxiety During A Job Interview

It is go time, and you can’t seem to get a grip on your emotions. It is normal to be nervous before an interview, but sometimes nervousness enrolls into its bigger version and shapes itself in the form of panic, more scientifically, known as ‘Panic Attacks.’

A panic attack is a situation where fear reaches its height more than usual, more often the symptoms include

  • Sweating
  • Heavy Chest pain
  • Breathing Difficulties
  • Trouble Concentrating
  • Feeling of drowsiness
  • Panic Attack during Job Interview

For ones, who are stepping towards the initial stage of their career. The pressure of job interview can create intense stress. A study suggests, adults appearing for interviews experience a panic attack before and during the interview. Any of the following reasons can give you interview nerves.

  • Less preparation
  • Higher expectations
  • Lack of Knowledge
  • Social anxiety
  • Fear of public speaking
  • Nervousness

Good news is that it's not that difficult to handle interview jitters.

Rehearse. Rehearse and Rehearse.

Rehearsing one day before the actual interview session works best. Having a pre-talk with yourself in front of a mirror will boost up your confidence, and you will know what answers and things to avoid during the interview.

Reach before time

Reach half an hour before time as you will feel less nervous, and will be able to collect your thoughts during the interview. If you are running late, you will add unnecessary stress to the situation. Make sure your phone is charged, and you know the exact interview location.

Stand Up

You will be offered a seat while you wait. Don’t take it; you don’t want to struggle out of the chair when the interviewer comes. You will be more confident if you are on their level when you first meet them.

Talking Tips

When we are nervous we tend to talk fast. Talking to the interviewee, keeping in mind the boss and employee factor will never work. Talk assuming him as your colleague or co-mate, so you will be able to answer fearlessly. Don’t be in a rush to finish your answer. Breathe and talk slowly. Also, don’t use a fake public speaking voice use your normal voice.

Don’t be underconfident

Its normal to be nervous during the interview. You might be nervous but don’t deny those feelings, being in denial about your nervousness before an interview will only do more harm than good as you end up focusing on pushing down the anxiety instead of concentrating on the conversation.

Be Yourself

Do your best and leave the rest. If you are yourself, you will look more relaxed, confident and authentic. Make up your mind that this is not the only job that is going to happen. Have some faith in yourself and your skills.

If you are having trouble preparing for your job interview, give us a call or visit welisten.in


Relationship Issues – Things That Affect Your Love Life

Everyone in a relationship wants one basic thing – a healthy relationship! We all want a relationship that is filled with joy, happiness, and love. We want to feel supported and connected and at the same time feel independent.

If you feel like something might be wrong in your relationship and is affecting our well-being, trust your gut and get help.

Here are some of the reasons why a relationship might be suffering a faded bond.

  • Lack of Trust
  • Publicising Personal Conversation
  • Infrequent Communication
  • Behavioral issues
  • Different Priorities

If you think you relate to above circumstances and above-mentioned causes are affecting your precious bond? Then call us, and we will help you with the right support and help you get your relationship back on track.

Some advice to ensure your relationship stays healthy in the long run

Listen More

If you happen to have the same arguments over and over or your arguments never resolve. It may be time to listen more patiently. Listen to learn, to understand, not to defend yourself or showing what's wrong with what you are hearing. Be specific about the problem, try not to resolve many things at the same time, stick to the problem at hand. Make sure you are not angry when you decide to talk.

Spend Quality Time Together

If you love someone, you need to cherish that person. Always be on a lookout to make new memories, plan a weekend getaway, go for a movie or dinner. Try to talk about positive and happy things when you step out, things that both of you enjoy. These outings are supposed to be fun and enjoyable for both, so make sure you pick something which you both enjoy.

Talk More, Really Talk

This step involves talking, and no yelling does not qualify as talking. If you get annoyed by some habit of your partner, try to look at from a different perspective or approach it differently. For example: If your partner leaves the wet towel on the bed every day. Instead of saying “You again did the same thing”. Try saying "I notice that a lot of times when if I ask if you could pick up a towel from the bed you say you will but then don't, and then I get annoyed and nag you, and then you blow up. I'm wondering if we can do this differently."

In addition to saying things differently. Sharing life decisions with your partner is good. If you have a new goal, share it with your partner. It generates a feeling of trust and compatibility in a relationship.

Maintain Privacy

Space is essential for a healthy relationship. When your partner asks for space it doesn't mean they don’t love you or don’t want to involve you in stuff; it means the other persons need to do something to clear the head.

Getting too much involved and possessiveness creates chaos. So, give some space to one another.

Hopefully, these tips will help you approach your relationship problems differently. All you need to do is start small, and one change will lead to another.
You can make changes on your own, but it is a lot easier with support. For relationship advice visit We Listen.in.


How to Overcome Social Media Addiction

How often do you seek for social media? Once in a day? Once in an hour? Or is it once in a minute? Yes, a study has found, a person checks his phone every 4 minutes, reaching it 80 times a day and the majority of usage is to scroll for social media.

Most of the people deny accepting the fact of being a social media addict even after spending 5-6 continuous hours on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Eventually, it has become a trend to be active on social media. But is it worth it?

Time for Reality Check

Madly chasing the viral trends, being anxious about getting more likes and comments on posts, trolling is a major priority these days. Believe it or not! The ‘Humanity’ is now hidden behind ‘Humour,’ and the addiction to social media is no less than consuming drugs. Though, it doesn’t physically harm but psychologically, it is hollowing the mental state of a person.

Chronic Stress

More than relieving the mind, it triggers stress either after reading a negative news or feeling anxious after getting fewer views or likes on posts than others, or headaches by continuous usage of the phone, mood swings, etc.

Depression

The cases of youth falling into depression are increasing more rapidly due to significant social media usage, and even studies have found, the older age people above 50 tend to be happier than the youngsters.

Real conversations

The stage has reached the level where family members sitting next to each other prefer to talk through chat at the moment instead of talking face to face. Literally, where are we moving?

Child-Parent Relationship

The cases of children dragging towards wrong discourse are majorly happening due to a communication gap between children and parents. Maybe because even parents are busy with endlessly scrolling their profiles.

Wastage of Time

People spend half a day looking at pointless updates. During free time, only a few people think of reading a book, having a face to face conversation, going out for fun instead they prefer to scroll their phones and spend the precious hours on the phone.

Sleepless Nights

Spending time on phone screen at night lowers the everyday functioning of brain memory and equally affects the body with a feeling of fatigue the entire day and poor concentration at work. Have a curfew for phone usage and set aside your phone 1 hour before you go to bed and notice how refreshed you will wake up the next day.

Below are some of the things you can try instead:

Conversate more

Try to divert your mind to pick up your phone in free hours. Whenever mind directs to use the phone to scroll social media, pick it up but not to scroll rather to call. Have a conversation on the phone, like old times.

Fewer Usage

Use social media maximum once a day, instead of opening it up every minute or hour. Doing this will create more concentration towards life and work, and you will be more focused.

Plan a Weekend

Plan a weekend trip and disconnect from your social life. Yes, it might sound weird but doing this will give you a more lively experience of nature and use this time to reconnect with your thoughts.

Play Time

If long hours at work stresses you and you think social media can de-stress you? Think again. It will only make you feel more exhausted. Instead, join a team. Spend your energy playing your favorite sport; it will drag you away from digital life and will help you stay in shape.

Its ok to use social media as it is an excellent source to stay updated but don’t overdo it. Try to have a real connection, read a book, set career goals. The world is your oyster!

Refer the above activities to fight your social media addiction, if you need any further help. Call or visit WeListen.in


Most Relaxing Songs

Everyone loves music. For some it might be the rhythm of happiness; for others, it might be a sweet taste of memory; for some, it might be a heartbeat jukebox.

Are you aware of the fact that there is a scientific reason behind it? Music is a source of relieving stress and anxiety up to 65 percent. It is known as "Sound or Music therapy", which is performed by many therapists.

Below are some of the most soothing and mind relaxing songs that are going to give you the calmest feeling ever. So, plug in and lose yourself in the music.

Marconi Union - Weightless

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UfcAVejslrU

Airstream – Electra

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YbHZ8VVhb94

DJ Shah – Mellomania

https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=1&v=xO_JP87Svpg

Enya - (1988) Watermark

https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=1&v=NO5tb20qQnA

Coldplay - Strawberry Swing

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h3pJZSTQqIg

If you are looking for calming ways to de-stress your mind, talk to us.


How to Overcome Self-Doubt?

Everyone feels self-doubt now and then. We often question whether or not we are making the right decision, making enough money. Self-doubt can often make simple things stressful.

Follow our tips to overcome self-doubt and negative thoughts.

How to Overcome Self-Doubt
If you are living with anxiety disorder and must question every thought and feeling of yours. We suggest you talk to a professional to get help.


Burnout - Recognize The Signs Before it's Too Late

We all experience mood swings, lack of interest in work from time to time. It is normal to have sleepless nights occasionally, but if you experience prolonged stress and feel overwhelmed, emotionally drained and unable to meet constant demands, it is time to get some help and understand your symptoms.

Burnout is a state of chronic stress that leads to:

  • physical and emotional exhaustion
  • cynicism and detachment
  • feelings of ineffectiveness and lack of accomplishment

Your body suffers a lot during the burnout because it is overworked and gets too little time to rest. Burnout is not something that happens suddenly; it creeps up over time which makes it much harder to recognize.

What are the signs of burnout?

Physical

  • Fatigue
  • Insomnia
  • Metabolic Disorder
  • Constant sickness
  • Weight gain

Emotional

  • Anxiety
  • Chronic Stress
  • Lack of motivation
  • Less social promptness

If you are experiencing some of these symptoms, it should be a wake-up call that you may be on a dangerous path. Talk to a professional to understand it better and know what lifestyle changes you can make to feel better.

Here’s what you can do to reduce the symptoms of burnout:

Interact more

The more you get involved with friends and family, the more you will feel relaxed, and it will let your mind calm to grab things quickly, and you can regain interest to get involved in tasks.

Reduce Workload

One of the significant causes of burnout is getting into endless hours of work which results in burnout. If you often say ‘yes’ to work, disregarding how you feel about it, then it is time to start saying ‘no’ to some of that work for your mental peace. Try to take on work at your own pace. Don’t get overloaded with work just for the sake of job because health should be your primary priority.

Slow Down

Set your own pace, slow down and breathe. Try to avoid chaotic places, try to be around greenery in morning and evening and have a silent walk with yourself. Apart from this; exercise more, practice yoga, and most of all meditate.

Reset your Goals

Sometimes all you need to do is to identify your stress point. If you need help with identifying source of your stress, talk to a professional

Give yourself some space to reassess the things that are bothering you. Take some off from work.

Burnout can often reduce productivity and sap your energy, leaving you feeling increasingly helpless, hopeless, and resentful. You may feel like you have nothing more to give.

The important thing is to seek professional advice to determine whether the cause of your symptoms is burnout-related or have some other origin. Contact us to feel positive and hopeful again.